By Juliana. English below.
Aneliese told us here what she learned with her first and second daughter. I have no children yet, but this doesn't mean I didn't learn a lot with the little ones' arrival. I learned to be an aunt.
A segunda coisa que aprendi foi que crianças unem toda família. É incrível como um bebêzinho que não sabe se comunicar, não entende muito o que acontece em sua volta tem o poder de fortalecer os laços familiares, aproximar ainda mais avós, tios, tias, primos e afins.
Por fim, mas não menos importante, outra coisa que aprendi foi a não julgar. Muitas e muitas vezes eu discordei de como minhas irmãs ou outras mães faziam isso ou reagiam a aquilo, mas venho aprendendo a não sair falando minha opinião na primeira oportunidade e sim pensar antes e guardar a experiência para quando eu mesma tiver filhos e passar por uma situação parecida. E, olhem, esse com certeza é o maior desafio de ser tia! A gente sempre quer dar palpites, né, titias?!
For me, being an aunt meant the first step to learn how to be a mother. And the first thing I learned was... I am not ready to be a mother! My husband and I want and plan to have babies, but being an auntie is a great test drive. There is no lack of love, no lack of will, or the "I don't know how to take care of a baby", what lacks for us is marriage time to enjoy this phase without limits, to have an established life (stop moving countries each year helps, right?!) and especially one extra dose selflessness, particularly with respect to the freedom of life as a couple only.
The second thing I learned was that children unite the whole family. It's amazing how one little baby who can not communicate, don't understand much of what happens around has the power to strengthen the family ties and get even closer grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and the likes.
Last but not least, another thing I learned was not to judge. Many, many times I disagreed on how my sisters or other mothers would do this or react to that, but I have learned not speak out my opinion at the first opportunity and instead consider before and save my thoughts for when I have kids and go through a similar situation. And, look, this is certainly the biggest challenge to be aunt! We always want to tell what is best, right, aunties?!